I’ve dealt with Tattle Life behind the scenes. It’s vile, obsessive, and it’s about time it was shut down

Tattle Life is not just a gossip forum. It’s a digital sewer where anonymous users tear people apart, and I’ve seen the impact up close.

I’ve worked with dozens of clients who’ve been targeted on there. Influencers, YouTubers, artists, presenters. The platform doesn’t care who you are. Once you’ve been picked, the attacks begin. They’ll fixate on your looks, your children, your past relationships, your voice, your weight, your job, your grief. Anything. They’ll post fake narratives and run with them as if it’s fact.

The people behind the screens

This is something I always tell my clients because it helps them grasp how absurd the whole thing is. Picture the person who wrote that post about you. They’ve sat down, vacantly scrolling through their phone or laptop, logging in as buttercupfizz81, and deciding that ruining your day is a good use of their evening. They’ll dissect your speech, criticise your kid’s clothes, accuse your partner of cheating, question your grief, or mock your skin condition. Then they’ll log off and make a cup of tea.

Or sit there, still scrolling, probably munching on some fucking Disco crisps, full of rage at a woman they’ve never met, because her house seemed too clean so she must be abandoning her children.

It’s actually quite sad.

They don’t know you. They’ve never met you. But they feel entitled to judge and speculate in disgusting detail, from the comfort of anonymity. And that’s the bit that makes them cowards. They want to say the nastiest thing possible without being held accountable for it.

I’ve had clients stalked. Some followed in public. Some had false tips sent to employers. One had an anonymous caller ring her sister’s work, pretending to be a journalist. It wasn’t a coincidence. It was a Tattle user. That’s the level this goes to.

Why people feel the urge to do this

There’s a reason your teachers would say, “Don’t worry, they’re just jealous of you,” when you were being bullied. And although that always felt a bit too simplistic at the time, there’s actually truth in it.

Happy people don’t go out of their way to destroy strangers. I truly believe that. People who are secure in themselves don’t obsessively log in every day to post venom about someone else’s relationship, parenting or face. It’s always the miserable ones who need to drag others down to their level of unhappiness. They’re angry, full of jealousy, and the only way they feel better is by taking something away from someone else. That’s what forums like Tattle Life exist for, making bitter people feel powerful for a moment.

The act of tearing someone down becomes its own twisted form of validation. It gives them meaning. And the more attention the post gets, the more superior they feel. It’s a performance for others just like them. And they never have to look that person in the eye.

It’s not just gossip. It’s psychological projection. And it’s deeply unhealthy.

A £300,000 payout and the founder unmasked

Tattle Life’s founder was unmasked in June 2025, after a libel case resulted in a £300,000 payout. Sebastian Bond, who had been operating under the fake name “Helen,” was exposed in court, and the couple who sued are now seeking potential imprisonment.

The site had been registered under a false name. No proper contact details. Just endless threads and a smug sense of protection from behind the screen. And now that illusion has started to crumble. Since the ruling, I’ve seen panic across the user base. Some started deleting accounts. Others are holding their breath.

They never thought the real world would catch up with them. But it has.

Sebastian Bond, who also goes by the name Bastian Durward, founder of Tattle Life

The Psychology of Anonymity and Why ID Laws Need to Catch Up

There’s a reason people feel bold enough to write such appalling things on Tattle Life. Anonymity removes accountability. The moment someone realises they’ll never be identified, their moral compass vanishes.

In real life, people have to face social consequences. But online? There are none. You can log in with a fake name, post the most evil, spiteful comments imaginable, and walk away without a second thought. No one will challenge you. No one will even know it was you. That’s why they do it.

And I really believe this needs to change. I think ID should be required for any online platform that allows public commentary on individuals. Not to silence people. Just to make sure they’re traceable. Because right now, there is zero liability. You can accuse someone of abuse, spread vicious rumours about their family, post images of their kids, mock them for their weight or their grief, and there are no consequences.

No one should be allowed to do that anonymously.

The Image Problem No One Talks About

One of the most disturbing parts of Tattle Life is the images. Yes, people post comments, but they also post photos, and those images are indexed. They appear in Google image searches.

I’ve seen cruel, photoshopped edits of clients show up in their top search results. That’s how deep this goes. You can be bullied and mocked, and the evidence of it becomes part of your permanent online record. It shows up next to your LinkedIn. Your brand. Your name.

And when someone Googles you, a client, a journalist, a stranger… they’re only two clicks away from finding that Tattle thread. It’s not hidden. It’s publicly accessible. That’s the part people don’t realise until it’s too late.

The psychological damage of being talked about like that is bad enough. But knowing those posts and images are attached to your name forever? That’s something no one should have to carry.

Tattle Life Isn’t Accountability. It’s Entertainment at Someone Else’s Expense

Tattle users love to hide behind the idea of “calling people out” or keeping influencers “honest.” But that’s not what’s happening. There’s nothing honest about dedicating your spare time to tearing someone apart for content. They don’t care about truth. They care about humiliation.

I’ve seen posts celebrating when someone has a breakdown. Laughing when someone loses a job. Mocking someone for grieving. And all of it is written by people who’d completely crumble if the same was done to them.

This site doesn’t help anyone. It turns people into targets. It feeds other people’s misery. And it keeps getting worse until someone speaks up or breaks down.

Final Thought

If you’ve never read Tattle Life, good. Don’t. And if you have, and found yourself thinking “It’s just the internet,” try saying that again after seeing how many lives it’s wrecked. I’ve dealt with the legal side, the emotional side, the logistical side. It’s real. The damage is real.

Some of these people clearly need a hobby. Instead, they get usernames, upvotes, and an entire echo chamber convincing them that their bitterness is some kind of moral high ground.

The site should be shut down. And until it is, I’ll keep helping clients fight it.